WHY CAN’T WE BE FRIENDS?

“When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends.”

“Those who know don’t speak. Those who don’t know speak.”

I don’t know how true these quotes are, but I like them nonetheless. One of the “read between the lines” doctrines in the Bible is that of Friendship(s). This sounds like a bit of shallow discussion but I have seen over the years numerous relationships based on numerous things: work, next door neighbor, family etc. However, how many sincere friendships do you have? How many people are in your life that truly know you and genuinely care about you? The days of David and Jonathan, Paul and Luke seem to be nothing but a distant memory in this day and age. Instead many times we surround ourselves with people that we waste time with. For whatever reason we feel a sense of obligation to be around them because our wives/husbands told us to or because of work or ….. well for any variety of reasons? The question this week is – who do you hang around and why?

The Apostle Paul is extremely clear about believers not hanging around “busybodies”. While speaking about them he states:

“Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying things they ought not to.” 1 TIMOTHY 5:13

I have found that busybodies are as active today as they have ever been; believers with too much time on their hands. It is tempting for some to want to “befriend” these people. After all they have the latest gossip from the Christian world and secular world. They have no problem spiritually and tactfully “shredding” others while their back is turned. It is sad, but some times when “friendships” are examined it turns out that we can have one or two or ten busybodies in our lives. People who always want to discuss other people. People who want to discuss you and your family. While it may be pleasing to our flesh to listen to these “ear ticklers” I assure you of one guaranteed thing – they’re saying the same things about you when your back is turned.

God has AWESOME, new covenant, spirit-led, grace filled friendships in this life for you and me. Our time shouldn’t be spent with negative, condemning and corrupting people. Why not take some time this week and allow the Holy Spirit in you to strip away some of those busybodies you’ve been hanging around!

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